So you’ve decided to return to college and get that film
degree that you hope will be your launching point into the world of film and
video production. At your first class you look around and realize that you are
nearly twice the age of the majority of your classmates. They look at you with
suspicion and curiosity, wondering why you are sitting in the audience as
opposed to standing at the front of the classroom teaching. Soon it becomes
obvious that you are not a professor but a student, there to learn just like
the rest. It is here that the similarities between you and your classmates end
and where the age difference and generational gap between you begins.
Being a Generation X in an I-Gen world can be discouraging
given the almost instinctual mistrust that the younger generation has for its
predecessors. It’s nothing personal, and chances are you had similar feelings
towards your elders when you were in your early 20s and late teens. But it does
make it challenging when you are expected to work with the I-Gens in order to
complete your coursework objectives. The key to your success will depend
largely on how you approach your fellow classmates and in your ability to work
independently.
Over the past three years, I have run into several Gen X
that struggled to gain any real benefit from teamwork assignments because they
were too afraid to engage their younger counterparts. Feeling isolated and
overwhelmed, they often looked to their professors for assistance only to be
once again frustrated by the seemingly universal lack of support. As a result,
they were left out of important opportunities to participate in various hands-on
and group oriented exercises.
Since much of the knowledge we need to graduate can only be
acquired through collaboration, it is important to bear in mind that,
regardless of your age difference, you and your classmates are there to learn.
Thus it is crucial that you focus on the task at hand and not worry about
winning any popularity contests. Moreover, don’t expect your professors to intervene
on your behalf, as it is likely that they are equally puzzled by your presence
and unwilling to show any favoritism, despite being closer in age. It is up to
you, therefore, to decide your level of involvement. If you are respectful and
yet refuse to be excluded you will find it much easier to get what you need
from a learning perspective, and may even garner some good will on the part of
your fellow classmates.
Of course, sometimes you are going to be on the outside regardless
of how hard you try. The primary reason for this has more to do with the fact
that college is, for better or worse, still a young person’s culture. While you
are at home taking care of your adult responsibilities, your classmates are
formulating friendships and liaisons that extend well beyond the confines of
the classroom setting. It is in these moments of extracurricular association
that the students begin to develop the network of support that they will use
throughout their college tenure, and more specifically, to produce their senior
thesis. Thus, you may find yourself having to work more independently at times,
but don’t be discouraged! Having lived two decades longer than most of your
classroom contemporaries gives you an important advantage in that you are most
likely better prepared, more disciplined, and better organized. These skills,
along with sheer determination, will prove invaluable especially during those
times when you find yourself at the helm of a team of one.
The college experience for older students is often a mixed
blessing. The age difference between you and the other students, the
ambivalence of the professors, and the general lack of support, can sap your
enthusiasm for learning. But again I say, do not be discouraged! If you can
keep your eyes focused on your goals and remain resilient in the face of
adversity, you will succeed. Never forget that no matter how awkward you may
feel being the oldest one in class, your classmates are probably just as
self-conscious as you are. Reach out to them, engage them, but don’t be too
disappointed if your efforts prove unsuccessful. Ultimately, you are there for
a purpose far more meaningful and important than the acquisition of friends from
amongst the I-Generations.